Why Staying in the Wrong Job Will Harm You

I wrote this to help a friend and everyone who needs to take a look at what they’re doing now that makes them unhappy.

Almost two years ago (how time flies) I left a job I’ve been in for five years to finally do what I love: PR and social media.

It hasn’t been easy, actually I can say I’ve been “forced” to make this decision for health reasons.

But let me start with the beginning:

I moved to Spain eight years ago, looking for a change in lifestyle, country and all. The timing wasn’t the best. It was 2008 and the beginning of the financial crisis. So even if initially I wanted to launch my own business, I settled for a regular job that paid the rent.

From family to friends, everyone was telling me how hard it was and how lucky I was to have a job in those times.

The first two years into the job, I’ve been excited. It was a new opportunity to learn Spanish, to deal and engage with people from all over the world.

After only nine months I’ve been offered to run the customer service office, which meant an increase in pay, more responsibility, and the chance to prove myself.

However, after two years, the excitement started to decline. No matter how much revenue I brought in, and to give you an idea, in the first year as a manager I increased company’s revenue with 50% (in times of financial crisis). The customer service office was more profitable than the whole company.

But no matter how much revenue I brought in along with my team and no matter how hard we worked, the leadership team failed to recognize the successes. They were always unhappy for some reason.

And it wasn’t just me or my team, it was the whole company.

Later I was to find out, it was a strategy to keep people from asking things such as increase in pay, more free time or flexible schedule.

Sounds familiar?

I am not done yet.

In my third year in the company, when it was clear I wasn’t going to get not even cheap courses for my team’s professional development, I started to focus on something else.

I was still doing my job, but wasn’t invested anymore. Due to the long hours, I didn’t actually had the time to find something else, though I wasn’t invested in the that either.

I was thinking of launching my own business, but was too afraid of “what ifs.”

What I failed to recognize at that time, was the fact that I was slowly falling in depression. I was unhappy with my job, I was unhappy in general, I didn’t pay much attention to my significant other or my family. To quote Gary Vaynerchuck, I was living for weekends and vacations.

I didn’t see a way out.

I focused on the online world, I started being active on social media, meeting new people, learning new things, reading a lot. It was my retreat, the place where I was happy, and the worries of the real world couldn’t touch me.

Fast forward two more years, that wasn’t enough anymore. I started having headaches for no reason. Headaches became migraines, which meant I couldn’t get out of bed, nor could I go to work for a couple days, and sometimes more.

The Wake Up Call

Everything came crushing down on me one Friday evening when I received a phone call regarding a personal event.

From there all started to go down the hill. I asked the leadership of the company for time off, to be able to solve that particular situation.

The reply I received was that it was a busy work period, so no.

I worked around the no, but that was the moment when I finally understood life is too short and it shouldn’t be spent in a job you don’t like, with people who don’t respect you as a human being and professional.

That was my waking up call.

In those difficult moments, a shift happened in my mind. I decided I was going to live on my terms and not settle.

I was already working as a freelancer on the side, so I focused on getting more work to cover my income and be able to leave.

To say I was scared is to put it mildly.

But I had enough.

I had enough of letting people treat me that way, I had enough of working with people who didn’t value my work or me as a person. I had enough of doing stuff for others and putting myself on the last possible place. I had enough of feeling sick, having constant headaches and living someone else’s life.

For the first time in 30 something years, I made the decision to live my life for myself. It may sound selfish, but it’s not.

It’s about listening to yourself and doing the thing YOU love.

It’s amazing how fast things work in your favor when you stop lingering and make a decision.

Long story short, within a few months I got out of that job, made my business full time and here we are, two years later.

Why Staying in the Wrong Job Will Harm You 

This is not a rant, I am sharing my story with you so you can understand that no matter how dark or hopeless a situation may seem, it’s not.

There is always a way out, you just have to be bold enough to make that decision.

I am not saying is going to be easy, but the solution is ALWAYS in your hands, whether you see it or not.

Life is too SHORT for you to stay in the wrong job, working with the wrong people. You deserve to be happy, fulfilled and enjoying life.

Please don’t settle!

If my experience taught me anything, is that I can handle whatever life throws at me and it’s up to me to make things better for myself.

While I was thinking about writing this post, I came across this video from Marie Forleo.

Watch it until the end, it will give you something to think about:

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